Sunday, April 15, 2007
My Spiritual Home
But I’ll tell you what. The first time I emailed Brian, I told him who I was and what I was doing and that I wanted to know more about his legal troubles. And when he replied, he latched on to something I had mentioned about coffee consistency and standardization, and instead of telling me much of anything about his case against Starbucks, he just started a conversation about coffee. Over the past five years of working on this film, I have had occasion to talk to and get to know MANY people in the coffee industry, and they’ve all been pretty wonderful and knowledgeable and generous with their time. But only a couple of them have struck me from the get-go as being coffee people first and business people second. And Brian is one of those people. He cares very passionately about coffee and about making it the way he sees fit, and every other decision he makes flows out of that simple fact. It strikes me as a very pure and authentic way of living. But more on that later.
So there’s that. I dream about this coffee. I inwardly rejoice every time I get to drink this espresso. I find myself perusing the internet and saying things to myself like, “hmm… why NOT attend the National Fiddler Hall of Fame Gala?” just so I could have an excuse to go back to Tulsa.
But I guess coffee is as good an excuse as any to travel. So I’m sure I’ll be back there before too long, and I won’t have to bother shooting a movie while I’m there; I’ll just get to focus on the coffee. Lucky me.
But here’s the thing about DoubleShot: it’s not just the coffee that makes me love it. I love it because it’s home to an actual, real, honest-to-god community. It’s hard for me to put it into words, because it basically boils down to this unique, ineffable feeling of COMFORT when I’m there. Spending time there is this slow but steady stream of familiar faces and inside jokes. The same people come in every day; they all know each other, and they’re all very serious fans of the coffee. They also have a real sense of ownership of the place. Like, there’s this one regular named Robert who periodically brings his leaf-blower over and cleans up the parking lot. Can you imagine feeling motivated to do that at any business in your neighborhood?? I can’t.
The first time I went to DoubleShot – I spent a week there about a year ago - I pretty quickly started mentally comparing the place to the TV show Cheers. And then I felt kind of pathetic, because how sad is it that my only reference point for that kind of interaction is a fictional television show? But it’s true. I just feel very COMFORTABLE at DoubleShot, comfortable and at home in a way that I’ve never felt in a coffee shop anywhere. So… maybe you can imagine what a shock to my system this was when I figured it out. I mean, I’ve been spending time in coffee shops since about 1989. And I’ve been shooting in them since 2002. So why ON EARTH did it take so long for me to find this… THING? The community thing. The comfort thing. The magical DoubleShot thing. I don’t know, exactly, and it’s something I’m still trying to work out, both for myself and for my film.
After I got back from my first trip to Tulsa last year, I (finally) read “The Great Good Place,” by Ray Oldenburg. For those of you who haven’t heard of it, it’s a work of sociology that identifies the “third place” in America – the informal social gathering places that are homes away from home and help Americans form communities. The book is actually half lament, half call-to-arms, because in Oldenburg’s opinion, third places (and therefore community) are dying out in America, due to suburbanization (and, I would add, our desire to easily obtain large quantities of cheap goods, regardless of the trade-offs that inevitably accompany that). In any case, Oldenburg has a very specific definition of what makes a third place, and DoubleShot fits the description to a t.
I have a suspicion that DoubleShot’s uniqueness has something to do with Brian’s personality. Brian, as I mentioned above, is a very REAL person. He is obsessively involved with every detail of running his business. And as of six months ago, he IS the business. He has no employees, other than a part-time secretary; he does everything himself. And pretty much the only thing he cares about is the quality of the coffee. He doesn’t care about the niceties of “customer service.” He doesn’t bother much with community events and the like. He just works on making exceptional coffee, and he succeeds at it very well. I’m not sure how other regulars at DoubleShot feel about it, but I think there’s something very liberating about being around a person who’s so CLEAR. Brian has his ideas about what’s right, and he doesn’t apologize for them. He’s not kissing your ass to make a sale. And I suspect that this way of being really frees people up to just hang out and be themselves, both with Brian and with each other. The regulars at DoubleShot all speak very admiringly of each other, and I’ve heard from a number of them that they’ve formed very unlikely friendships at DoubleShot (going back to the Cheers analogy, it's kind of like Cliff being buddies with Frasier). And whenever I’ve been there – whether I’ve had the camera in my hands or not – I’ve always wound up having really interesting conversations with strangers (who have very quickly ceased to be strangers - I guess I have formed some unlikely friendships there too). It’s a feeling I almost never encounter in the rest of my life.
So this is why I call this place my spiritual home. It’s rare and special, and it’s a really solid reminder of what real community is, what our public spaces CAN feel like (and almost never do). And on top of all that, when I’m at DoubleShot, I become the Amy I really like, the Amy I most want to be in life – open, curious, engaged with the people around me, all while holding a cup of outrageously good coffee in my hand. Thank you, Brian, for making such a kick-ass corner of the world. And thanks for sharing it with me.
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Awww. You're sweet. I sure do appreciate you and the words you wrote about me and my little store. You are correct, it is an interesting community. The people that hang out here are honest and intelligent. They are kind and thoughtful. I am lucky to be surrounded by my friends.
I'm also lucky to have found something I'm good at and love so much. I love coffee, and I love people who work hard and strive for quality. I feel a real connection to the people who produce it through their coffee beans. And I do everything I can to respect them by taking their hard-earned product and making it something really special and delicious.
The DoubleShot is a good place. Not just because of me or the coffee, but because of the people. Including you, Amy Ferraris. I've been fortunate that you found me and that I've gotten to invest the time to get to know you. You know, when you left last time, I cried. Because you are very special, and I miss you when I'm not mic'ed and you can't hear every whisper I make. :) No, seriously, I need someone to listen to me pee.
I look forward to seeing you again soon. Maybe I'll step out of my comfort zone and come see your section of the universe.
Thanks for being the "you" that you like, Amy.
I'm also lucky to have found something I'm good at and love so much. I love coffee, and I love people who work hard and strive for quality. I feel a real connection to the people who produce it through their coffee beans. And I do everything I can to respect them by taking their hard-earned product and making it something really special and delicious.
The DoubleShot is a good place. Not just because of me or the coffee, but because of the people. Including you, Amy Ferraris. I've been fortunate that you found me and that I've gotten to invest the time to get to know you. You know, when you left last time, I cried. Because you are very special, and I miss you when I'm not mic'ed and you can't hear every whisper I make. :) No, seriously, I need someone to listen to me pee.
I look forward to seeing you again soon. Maybe I'll step out of my comfort zone and come see your section of the universe.
Thanks for being the "you" that you like, Amy.
I can't wait to try this place! Thank you for your review! I live in Oklahoma City, and good coffee is hard to find. Next time I am in Tulsa, I am heading to DoubleShot!
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